Sunday, March 26, 2006

Cosita Seria And Her Bob

It's been a heavy weekend in terms of issues around here. La Mapu and I have been talking about transgender issues and political action. Last week it was all about pussies, vaginas, coocoos, chochas, cositas, and bob. Last year La Mapu, after hearing Pussy Manifesto, decided she wanted to call her vagina her pussy. Not a problem for me but I did have to explain how other people might react and why. She was uncomfortable with the word coocoo (the word my mother used with my sister and I). She said that sounded babyish and La Mapu is no baby. Vagina sounded too technical for her. Lately she's been experimenting with Bob. Yes my daughter has named her vagina Bob.

I tried my best to explain the issues of gender and transgenderism. We know some peeps in the trans community pero I don't think she really understood what the deal was , until she started asking questions this weekend. I think she's been seeing more trans images in the media and that has raised questions for her, She's been asking about the labels girl, boy, male and female. It shows she's thinking which is a good thing.

Then spurred by watching the movie Walkout (which was ok...I have some issues with it but I can find issue with everything!!!) She was asking about different ways people protest , especially in the Latino community. She was already thinking about these things , especially after she decided to do a Women's History Month project on Lucy Parsons. I suggested a group of radical women of color- I mean she's gonna learn about great white women all her damn life. She decided Lucy seemed the most interesting to her. At 8 she's not thinking in terms of labels like anarchism, socialism etc. But she's thinking about the ways people work to change things. My mother says I'm engaging in brainwashing. I say no more than her public school is also.

For example , two weeks ago, la Mapu asked about animal rights including animal testing and hunting. She decided she was going to go vegan. I supported her by taking her to the grocery store to purchase food that had no animal products. Her being a vegan lasted all of two days before she asked me for some pernil but the point is letting her find her own path and supporting it, so long as its not too dangerous or completely fucked up like going to a young republicans meeting or something. Ha!


Blogger nubian said...

pretty curious and intelligent child at 8. i don't even think i could spell my name by that age :-)

what kinda things do you explain to her about labels?

3/27/2006 12:31:00 PM  
Blogger Ms.Maegan said...

Yeah no shit. At 8 I just wanted to do well on tests and shit.

Most of the time she comes at me with a story about how arbritary the labels are especially in terms of gender roles. She's wondering why "boys" are allowed to do certain things and girls other things. This weekend the conversation was centered alot around clothing. I've been trying to explain that alot of the labels around gender and sexuality aren't as arbritrary as they seem but were created and developed as a form of socialization and oppression but I don't know how best to approach this with an 8 year old!!!! I need to do some serious work and find stuff that is age appropriate

3/27/2006 02:01:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey, off/topic, but this is the only place i know to ask, lol.

any info on where the HR4437 protests in NY will be??? tks.

3/27/2006 02:53:00 PM  
Blogger Ms.Maegan said...

There was one on Saturday over at Federal Plaza

3/27/2006 02:59:00 PM  
Blogger rabfish said...

wow, you're being so great with this!

do you have a women's bookstore that has ckids books about gender etc?

i have a niece turning 7; she's incredibly curious, open to hearing and learning, but she's kept carefully 'protected' from anything different or challenging in the name of not overloading her system. so gender is totally binary to her. i love how your girl named her vagina bob.

3/30/2006 08:31:00 PM  
Blogger Ms.Maegan said...

I do have a woman's bookstore about an hours subway ride away...last time I went they didn't have such a great children's section but I should go back.

3/31/2006 08:33:00 AM  

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